"Should I leave my marriage?"

The question I'm asked most and the advice I wish I had taken

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"Should I leave my marriage?"

I haven’t been asked this question this simply, this directly, but over the past couple of years I’ve fielded plenty of questions that dance all around it.

This is not the same as “knowing what you know now, would you do anything differently?” I plan to answer that question in a future newsletter. But, for now, to respond to this one. I think I know what you want me to say. And what you want me to say is: