Taking a breather ✌️

Giving up and giving in is self-care

Cake by Paulette Goto via her Instagram pollycooks

Hello friends, enemies, friends of enemies (why are you here), enemies of friends (again, why), and of course your garden variety frenemies,

Just yesterday I was texting one of my closest pals — who I haven’t seen in far too long — and started listing off what was happening in my life (a regular feature of the past 11 months) and why all of that was making it impossible for me to make plans. It’s then that I realized, hmmm, well that certainly seems like a lot. Almost too much. Oh waitttttt …

… working long-ass days (but good days on good work with good people THANK GOD) on a west coast schedule, looking for future work both freelance and full-time at the exact moment my portfolio site decided to shit the bed (wow it’s almost like something I put off and didn’t feel like putting money into for the last 5 years finally bit me in the ass — who would’ve guessed it besides MY FURNACE CIRCA 2015), finallyyyyyyy getting fuckinggggg divorced and all the meetings and information gathering and financial digging and LEARNING AND GROWING and stabby feelings that entails, paying for aforementioned divorce, paying for just about everything else (did I mention that my portfolio shit the bed), needing to organize my hellscape of a freelancer paper shit storm for my accountant so my dumb taxes will finally get done, trying to pull together a cohesive pitch for a timely piece I very much want to write, trying to pull together my head for another thing that I don’t know how to write but very much want to and soon, attempting in the midst of all of this to let my kids know I’m here and paying attention and throwing my love at them like it’s a drive-by, and oh yes a skin biopsy this week and all I’ll say is if there ends up being something wrong with me on top of all of this shit I WILL SIMPLY DESTROY THE EARTH.

I mean a) obviously there’s something wrong with me and b) I am not special. Everyone I know has some version of this list going (plus more). But for me, for now, something needs to give so I can buckle down and push through.

I’m going to pause this newsletter for a month, until mid-April. Never fear, I will be back! I have lots of ideas (and drafts) on deck. For paid subscribers: you will not be charged while HONEY STAY SUPER is paused. But if you are, or something wonky happens, please let me know. And if you try to sign up for a paid subscription now you won’t be able to but never fear, I will come roaring back soon, absolutely trying to separate you from your money.

Randomly — if you’re in NYC, I’ll be there the 2nd week of April! Let’s hang out? I owe a lot of people a lot of hanging out and I owe some of you meetings and also if you know how I can get into ghostwriting books for rich famous people (a few of you have reached out to me over the years about this but now I can’t remember who??) please get in touch! I can write in someone else’s voice like an absolute motherfucker. But that’s not the point of this newsletter!

If you responded to this request from January: “Did you get a tattoo(s) after your divorce?” I am still writing this piece! I just haven’t been able to dedicate the time and focus to it that it deserves, but I will. In the meantime I’ve gotten three more tattoos LOL. And by the time I publish it I will have three more and no I’m not kidding. Anyway! You can still respond to that request by commenting on that post or just replying to this email.

If you’re a new reader/subscriber and wondering what the deal is with me (honestly, same), here are some of my favorite pieces from the past year:
• THE NEW YORKER: “I Do Not Like Work, Ma’am-I-Am”
• THE NEW YORKER: “I’m Not a Professional Athletic Trainer, I’m Just a Woman”
• OLDSTER: “This is 54: Author Kimberly Harrington Responds to The Oldster Magazine Questionnaire”
• WASHINGTON POST: “The one book about marriage I wish I’d read before my wedding”
• WASHINGTON POST: “Who is responsible for unwanted pregnancies? Men, a new book argues.”
• HONEYSTAYSUPER: “Divorce, for real”
• HONEYSTAYSUPER: “Five weeks to a new life”
• HONEYSTAYSUPER: “What about your life scares you?”
• HONEYSTAYSUPER: “✨54✨: Don't dream it's over”
• HONEYSTAYSUPER: “AMA: "Will you just tell us what happened?!" i.e. "Why did you go from separated to divorce-divorce??"

Have a great month, y’all. I’ll see you again soon! Xx

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You can find my books here. You can find my writing here. You can find my copywriting and creative direction work here (can you tho?). You can (usually) find me on Instagram, but I’ll be taking a break from that too. Please do not find me in real life, I’m very busy doing all my little bullshit things and being mad about taking a break from dating too 😭 because per dress code language THE WAY BOYS DRESS IS DISTRACTING ME FROM MY WORK.